By Brian Mboh
A new book highlighting the dilemmas men face, advocates personal dialogue and inner work to help men not only grow but thrive, has been launched. The book, titled Finding You: Negotiating Life’s Transition, Upscaling the Whole, was launched on Saturday, May 9, 2026 in Yaoundé.
The compelling publication is authored by certified soft skill trainer, trailblazing whole person empowerment coach and counsellor Authur Bernice Enang. The book was reviewed by renowned journalist, and civil society actor Comfort Mussa. The book, Finding You, is divided into three sections: the diagnosis, negotiation and growth.
Speaking at the book launch, Enang said it was the fruit of a three-year journey and described it as a “dream come true.” She described the process of conceiving, writing, and publishing the book “as a calling that dropped from above”.
According to Enang, there exists a wide range of books on self-development. However, she bemoaned the fact that only very few of them talk about the realities of the African man.
She revealed that in the first half of 2026, there have been at least 26 feminicide cases orchestrated by men. These men, she argued, found themselves in “extra trauma and inability to manage their emotions properly.”
According to the author, if men “cry about it” the world, she stated, will label it as weakness. She stressed further that in this situation; men should not be accused but educated to speak up when they find themselves in a tight corner. They are human beings, she added, and are not immune to trouble.
“Living in the African context and being in close proximity with men for the last 20 years, I think that someone should be addressing their problem because day by day, we see many more men dying,” Enang told Camertoday.
“When we have the little girls and women get empowered, they will go back to live with these men. So, is it not better to empower the men so that the women can have a comfortable partner to live with?” she questioned.
“Through one man, we can change a whole nation (…) A man who cannot control his emotions becomes enslaved by them. I am out on a campaign to help people name their emotions,”Enang added.
Not a book for men only
According to the author, Finding You is not a book “only for men”. She pointed out that contrary to that, the book is a “love story for men.”
“It is a book for men, women and children. This is because if I am a woman and I get to read about men, it will help me to live better with the men in my life. If I am a son, and I read about men, I will carry myself better. And if I am a man and I get to read about men, I will be able to fix myself to become the best version of myself,” Enang.
“I am advocating for wholeness. Every human being should live in their whole element so that ourselves and our communities can thrive,” Enang added.
Several people purchased the book and it was said that the money raised during the launch would fund the activities of the First Housebound Foundation (FiHoF).
FiHoF’s mission is to build resilient harmonious families and thriving communities by empowering men on family life and responsibility so as to equip them for life with already empowered women. FiHoF permits men to be seen, heard and appreciated for the value they carry in manhood .
A book about men finally here- Comfort Musa
In her indepth review of the book, Comfort Mussa saluted the author’s courage to write about a “topic unexplored” about the emotions and identity of men.
Musa said she found a lot of strength in the book. According to her, unlike other books, Finding You is authentic with the stories rooted in real Cameroonian and African experiences.
“There are many books around the emotions of men but for me, this is the first one written by a Cameroonian author addressing the emotions of Cameroonian men,” Mussa said.
“The book is very practical. The language and style are accessible. I like the way she blends prose with affirmations of practical steps
“The book is detailed enough to make sense for men but it is also brief enough to hold the attention of people in a society where we are struggling with attention span,” Mussa added.
Musa also appreciated the topics raised in the book like: masculinity, emotional intelligence, resilience, identity, growth and legacy.
She mentioned that: “Finding you is a very courageous, necessary book. It challenges everyone to confront our hidden struggles, to dismantle false identity and to upgrade our authentic selves.”
Men are allowed to be vulnerable…
One of the major highlights of the book launch was the panel discussion on the theme: Identity, Masculinity, and mental health awareness for family harmony and thriving communities.
One of the panelists, Elangwe Elenga revealed that society has placed a lot of expectations on the men with, for some, little or no resources to meet their daily targets.
He said some men engage in crimes due to the “lack of purpose and direction.” He revealed that according to the World Criminal Record, 97% of people of the over 34,000 in prison are young men.
“When purpose is not known for too long, the result is collapse,” Elenga said.
Another panelist, Elysee Fossi, a psychotherapist, revealed that men are humans and should be free to be overwhelmed.
“Showing emotional weakness, vulnerability is not something you should be ashamed of. He said men should be encouraged to seek help,” Fossi concluded.
